My Purpose is Being Threatened

I know that I was born to be a father. That is what I was put on this Earth to do! It is my ultimate dream! I CAN NOT wait to have children! I want to give all my love to them! However, I wonder if I have what it takes to have children and/or if the world needs more children. I know that sounds super grim, but it is the truth. We are currently at a turning point for the human race. World War III could be right around the corner, and the Earth’s temperature could continue to rise. I don’t know if I want to doom a child to a world with no future.

Having children can be a really selfish thing; no one ever really talks about that. Children did not ask to be brought into a world of suffering, hatred, and disappointment. Yet, we have children because we want something to love. I just told you that my dream is to have children and my life’s goal is to have them. That right there shows just how selfish having children can be. I am doing it because I want to, not because the child wants me to. It’s hard to reconcile, primarily when dealing with your own mental health struggles. You do not want to pass those traits onto your children, but you are destined to due to genetics. Do I really want to watch my child go through similar struggles I faced? Absolutely Not!

Climate change is another significant threat when deciding on parenthood. Do I really want to bring children into a world that is dying? No. They say that by 2100 areas of the world could be underwater. That means that migrations away from the seas will have to happen. Cities are going to become heavily populated, more than they already are. Places like Phoenix will be too hot to live there during summer. That heat is already melting things. Take a look at the pictures below. Due to climate change and urbanization, pandemics like COVID-19 will be increasingly threatening as the century goes on. Is it really fair to a child to bring them into a world like that? I don’t really think so. It’s a significant problem threatening the extinction of the human race. I do not want my children to live through or die in an extinction event.

I think where I have settled is on adoption. I think my children will be adopted. So many children are lost and abandoned in the adoption and foster care systems. And it is also the least selfish way to have children. These children are already born into this world, so why don’t you try and give them the best life they can live?! They can’t do that in the foster care system. Adoption allows me to have a child without actually having one. It is the best of both worlds, unfortunately. It’s still not ideal because they will still face the unknowns of climate change, pollution, geopolitics, etc. However, it does offer a better quality of life than being in foster homes until they are 18 years old.

I cannot wait until I experience the joys of fatherhood! This may sound egotistical, but I know I will be a fantastic father. It is what I am supposed to do with my life. I have never been highly ambitious, but this is the one dream I want to come true. Adopting does not make that any different; I will always love that child like my own blood. I will be a father one day!